OUR RELATIONSHIP IS OVER

                                

I wake up every morning and still have this one thought hunting me, I have tried and really don’t know how to get rid of it.The more I try the more the accuser stands beside me to re-play the video of my past, But I vividly remember the preacher speaking that fateful morning in my Sunday school class that I have every right to control my life, speech, thoughts and even pasts. But it doesn't work here, am I an alien or something?
. . . .#screams# Shame grows best in the dark, we are only sick as the secrets we keep.

As human beings we've all grown to make our past known as our life style which is not very good. That’s why the English dictionary would explain it as the time before the present, therefore it blindfolds us and locks us up in the dark where we have grown and developed the habit that we now die in the prison called “memory” we get so cuddled up in there that we no longer believe in ourselves talk more trying to identify our skies(purpose), it can be very devastating. I know and I have being there, but beloved I was blessed when I came across this three(3) beautiful friends or would I call them three wise men ;

*facing the past

*forgiving the past

*dealing with the past

These three friends of mine gave me different life lessons, yeah! They really did especially that of my friend two(2) even if it was the hardest of them all but I just had to because, i realized that it was the only way out from hell on earth(past experiences) and a quick move into the best days of life and so I clinged to it without any doubts.

                                          

FACING THE PAST

Refuse to live like a victim. Because you and I know that you have not done worse than 1001 people that are out there. Beloved you are in a better shoe because you have decided to face it (past),how about dose that have decided to live in the world of ignorance? Aren’t you better than them? Decide to stop looking for sympathy and walk up to your solutions, acknowledge the fact that you have made a mistake, why? Because you’re human and so you’re bound to do so. One thing we should all realize is that God is aware of our days/times of deviances but allows us a times because sometimes that’s the only way we could learn and mould our character (E.g. reflect on the story of the Israelites or even that of Saul of Damascus).God opens doors and when he does we have to walk through them and accept responsibilities and not denial for our future.

ISOLATE FROM THE PROBLEM

Every human being is not the same even though we were all created in Gods image and likeness, As we grow we would see humans of different and weird characters, That sometimes we get stunned . . . . Hmmm Thank God for the spirit of tolerance. And that is why we shouldn’t treat everyone according to our past experiences; don’t let the scars gotten from a past experience or what someone did to you in your Ex-relationship infect every other relationship in your life. Isolate the event from your memory and stop the enemy from using your past to rob your future.

Definitely for you to let go of the past you have to learn how to FORGIVE just as lord has done to you. You must know that when you have a wrong concept of the love God has for you then you would never learn to forgive. . . .For he says ‘for the plan he has for you are for good not for evil to give you a future and a hope’.

FORGET ABOUT YOUR SINS FOR GOD’s SAKE, FOR WHEN YOU KEEP BRINGING THEM UP, YOU BOTHER HIM WITH SOMETHING AWFUL. . . . .                                                                             

For us to learn how to forget we have to get rid of PRIDE(proverbs 13:10) cause it makes you think that you are a looser in the human form and that you've got to pay at least, for what you have done. These are consequences for our actions but do not make the mistake of thinking those consequences are some atonement for sin. . . .It’s not possible for you to let go of the past when we can’t forget what others have done to you. (Phil 3:13)

DEALING WITH THE PAST

Learn not to blame yourself for everything that happens and always learn to accept that he has forgiven you for all your transgressions and sins. Don’t ever think that your past disqualifies you from moving forward, because by doing that it then means you don’t understand God’s grace (His grace is sufficient for us 2cor 2:19) because he has more for your today than your yesterday.

                                           

You have got to learn how to renounce the past when it wants to take you back to that prison called ‘memory’. The one thing the enemy doesn’t want you to know is that we have the power to restrict his movements in our life. You’re a child of God, you carry your fathers ‘power of attorney’ so put on the handcuffs and serve him an eviction notice.

“I believe that you're great, that there's something magnificent about you. Regardless of what has happened to you in your life, regardless of how young or how old you think you might be, the moment you begin to think properly, there's something that is within you, there's power within you, that's greater than the world. It will begin to emerge. It will take over your life. It will feed you. It will clothe you. It will guide you, protect you, direct you, sustain your very existence, if you let it. Now, that is what I know for sure.”